Racks on Racks

20170807_134218Thanks to Brand Nubian’s Lord Jamar, the #bookphonechallenge is a thing… a very welcomed thing in 2017. While I spent hours committing random facts to memory from World Book Encyclopedia, truth be told, I didn’t read enough books for pleasure growing up. Outside of Outbreak and The Coming Plague, I read The Source and XXL, before transitioning to an assortment of websites to feed my information addiction. Most of the books I read were dry, meaningless, and assigned reading for school. Great Expectations and Wuthering Heights did little to stoke my intellectual curiosity as a young, Black, adolescent growing up in New York City.

As an adult, the critical need to consume books has never been more apparent. I regret not realizing sooner the importance of feeding my brain’s insatiable desire to be challenged by new ideas. Growing is impossible without exposure to alternate perspectives from which to gain insight.

While I still find it difficult to sit down somewhere quiet, nerd out, and thumb through the pages of a book, (unless I’m on a plane trying to justify my need to utilize both armrests), the good news is audiobooks are dope. Let’s be real, after a day of concentrating efforts on income generation and trying to prevent your five-year-old from bungee jumping off the refrigerator, our eyes are tired. Audiobooks remind us we live in the future and other people can read us the information we don’t have time to read at our own convenience. In a city like Houston where every drive you make is a minimum of thirty minutes, there’s plenty of time to feed your grey matter. Admit it, the radio plays the same ish for six months at a time and you’re sick of it anyway… Might as well learn you something instead. The wisdom I’ve accumulated in the past eleven months can mostly be attributed to an assortment of books I’d love to share with you. In order from least to most recent here they go:

WarriorWithinAwakeningYourInnerGeniusBetweenTheWorldAndMe10XRuleAlgorithmsYouCantMakeMeBronxIsBurningRaiseTheBarOurRevolutionVinceLombardiElonMuskTheLifeChangingMagicGoTellItOnTheMountainFreedomIsAConstantAdultChildrenLifesWorkAstrophysicsInAHurryBlackPrivilegeICantMakeThisUpBreakingTheHabitPlugsLawyerChinasSecondI Am A Black Man -1

I Am A Black Man: The Soundtrack

I Am A Black Man The Soundtrack

If you’ve picked up your copy of I Am A Black Man: The Evolution of a Dangerous Negro you’ve probably noticed each chapter begins with a verse from a different artist. All of these songs define a certain era in my life. My ups and downs, as well as periods of confusion, reflection, and self motivation are captured in these selections. I feel they best represent my journey and growth as a human being. Take a listen and get a glimpse of what was floating around in my mind as I wrote every chapter of my memoir…

The Black Male Emotional Awakening

clock444-1It’s 4:44 Am and the snooze button has been broken from being pounded too many times. Eyes open in the darkness, Black men are staring at our ceilings putting the pieces of our hearts together. Maybe Ghostface was the first to get it lit with his introspective, relationship rant records. And then maybe Drake took it a step further with his Drakiness. Maybe This Is Us currently has us in our feelings. Whatever it took, we should be excited about the arrival of “The Black Male Emotional Awakening.”

Without question, sports, media, entertainment, and Hip Hop inform the dominant swag of the Black community. Considering such, recent biographies by Kevin Hart and Charlamagne The God, paired with the admired wokeness of Colin Kaepernick, and wisdom of Hov, indicate a paradigm shift in the emotional alertness of Black men.We’re finally confronting our Dads’ Daddy issues and the trickle down effect they’ve had on us. The infidelities, the emotional voids, the disappointments – they’re finally open for discussion.

In I Can’t Make This Up, Kevin Hart recalls his father’s indiscretions, substance abuse, and inability to accept responsibility for his destructive behavior. Believing our big, swinging sex organs will solve all our problems leads to frequent failures and setbacks. Though the book is hilarious, (I recommend the Audible version for added hysterics), it’s amazing to see how his father’s faults play into Hart’s adult decision making.

Similarly, with full candor, Charlamagne reveals how he went from being a gifted and talented nerd to sharing a jail cell with his father in Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes To Those Who Create It. Products of the cocaine 80s, many of us can relate to the pitfalls that ensnared us, our fathers, family, and friends. Only now are we analyzing what it took to overcome those obstacles, lead productive lives, and stop hurting the people who love us the most.

We’re finding ourselves.

Historically we’ve dedicated massive amounts of energy to the professional sports that celebrate our physical prowess, yet do little to advance our collective uplift. Colin Kaepernick changed all of that by taking a knee. Suddenly I don’t care about the NFL, which has blackballed Brother Kaepernick for drawing attention to racial injustice. In A Bronx Tale, Sunny tells C, “Mickey Mantle don’t care about you. Why should you care about him? Nobody cares.” Black men are finally starting to realize the NFL and NBA, don’t care about us, no matter how many millions they shower on us to piss away in the breeze of an average sports career. Colin Kaepernick has travelled back to Africa to reconnect with our ancestral roots and find purpose amidst the massive illusion we’ve been sold in America. We’re ready to give up our sports worship to preserve our dignity.

Not only are we sick of being tricked into subservience, we’re sick of tricking off our money too. A decade ago Hov made us stop wearing jerseys in favor of button ups. Today he’s telling us to put the money phones down and invest in assets. And it’s connecting. That’s what happens when people reach emotional maturity. Rational, practical decision making replaces foolishness.

Overcoming emotional immaturity has even allowed us to begin dismantling homophobia. If you would have told me at any point in the last two decades Jay Z would be a gay rights advocate I might have laughed. Yet here we are in 2017 and it only seems logical. On “Smile,” the third track on his latest album, Jay raps:

Mama had four kids, but she’s a lesbian
Had to pretend so long that she’s a thespian
Had to hide in the closet, so she medicate
Society shame and the pain was too much to take
Cried tears of joy when you fell in love
Don’t matter to me if it’s a him or her

I just wanna see you smile through all the hate

One of the most notable characteristics of emotional immaturity is the inability to accept other peoples’ differences. For far too long Hip Hop embraced toxic masculinity, which celebrated misogyny and championed homophobic rhetoric. I’m guilty one hundred times over. Soul searching brings us into agreement with Jay who highlights his own flawed thinking on women and gay people. Our families and lives are incomplete without them; it’s about time we see them as equal human beings worthy of our full respect, support, and admiration.

I know what Sistas are thinking right now: “We’ve been telling you this for years!” Yes, you have and your patience is appreciated. We can’t thank you enough for making us take A Seat At The Table to drink Lemonade. Black women have been reading books, gaining insight, and finding ways to heal and improve, while us Negroes have been debating top ten emcee lists into our mid-thirties. You’ve been traveling the world, collecting hella stamps on your passports without us. Sistas got book clubs, and running groups, and fitness bootcamps to heal mind, body, and spirit. You’ve been going to college and graduate school at much higher rates, making guap, starting businesses, and holdin’ us down. Meanwhile we’ve been stuck in a box of emotional immaturity grappling with our daddy issues, making bad decisions, and breaking your hearts.

But we’re coming out of the fog.

We’re talking, rapping, and writing about our emotional growth. Certainly that was my motivation for putting out I Am A Black Man: The Evolution Of A Dangerous Negro. Having our third eye open isn’t enough. Opening our hearts to get on one accord, heal the Black community, and liberate ourselves from economic oppression is essential. Only then will we be able to neutralize White Supremacy. So Black man, continue to get those feelings off your chest so we can turn our attention to being productive. It’s now 4:45 and we can’t afford to go back to sleep.






All Eyez On Meek

Amazon currently ranks I Am A Black Man #23 in their Biographies>Rap subheading. Not bad considering the book was just released a few days ago! Before a new album drops rappers usually tease their projects by disclosing their tracklist. I Am A Black Man the audiobook is coming soon, so I figured why not go ahead and drop mine?






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Birth Of Agnation


Let me start off by thanking everyone for their patience over the last eighteen months. Writing a book while trying to be an engaged parent has to be the most difficult thing I’ve ever done. My text messages have been short, phone calls rare, and Facebook posts infrequent. Many nights, I skipped sleep to reword sentences, restructure paragraphs, and question whether I was skilled enough to complete this task.

My need to get this book out of my system was overwhelming. It picked at my brain, haunted, taunted, and distracted me from focusing my attention elsewhere. I’ll never know what it feels like to be nine months pregnant, but I think I have a good idea. This baby grew to take up massive amounts of internal real estate, slowing my free motion, while kicking me in the gut from the inside. Any media I consumed reminded me I was eating for two: my personal growth and the health of this book. One audiobook and one documentary a week have comprised my diet. I boycotted the NBA, stayed off Yahoo News (as much as I could), and skipped television. Still, sacrificing those things wasn’t as painful as not dedicating my full attention to music. I’m a DJ… I needed to get this baby out of my belly!

I’m happy to announce I Am A Black Man: The Evolution of a Dangerous Negro is finally here. Well, sort of. Pre-orders begin today, with shipping beginning the first week of July. For those that pre-order the book, I will autograph your copy before it is mailed out. Maybe, just maybe, my sloppy signature will add value to your purchase someday 🙂

Though I’m just one Black man, I hope this book will give people new insight on what it’s like to dance with America’s upper and lower crust. More importantly, I hope it will help people to heal, as I have found healing in completing this project. Thank you in advance for your support. I can’t wait to hear your feedback.

I Love You All,


PS – You can pre-order ORDER your copy of the book by clicking HERE!

Prince Was Everything

PrinceBatmanLiterally. Prince was the complete human experience in one package.  He was yin and yang, fire and ice, gin and juice, diamonds and pearls.  Had he lived longer to see us contact alien civilizations, I would have voted for The Purple One to be sent into space as our global ambassador.  In the history of the world who else has seamlessly embodied mankind’s greatest traits, contradictions, and emotions?

Before scriptures were translated into other languages, God, or Elohim, was genderless. Now go get your Old Testament and swap out Elohim for  Prince logo.svg and tell me you don’t gain a greater respect for The Artist.  The closest thing we have in the English language to help us wrap our head around this concept is the word androgynous; and it would be just that, a word, had Prince not given us the prototypical living example. On the real, Prince transcended gender identity; Prince was hyper masculine and uber feminine at the same damn time.  He had the dopest facial hair and hairdos simultaneously. His voice was baritone, yet he sang soprano like a champ.  He was hairier than Chewbacca yet, he wore eyeliner.  And it worked.  Prince was the only dude that could pair a butt out pantsuit with high heel shoes and still have women (and some men) fawning over him left and right.  Nobody will ever be able to pull that off again!

But this isn’t just about Prince exhibiting the best of both genders. It’s much more than that. Like I said, Prince was EVERYTHING. Go revisit the 1989 Batman soundtrack.  Prince was Bruce Wayne and the Joker for a whole album. In fact, on that album and all his other albums, you can’t even put a genre on the projects.  Prince was Rock, Funk, Blues, Jazz, Hip Hop, R&B… man, even EDM before EDM was known as EDM.  Prince played damn near every instrument; he transcended genres!

In fact, Prince transcended music altogether. While the world knew Prince, the entertainer, we’re just starting to learn about Prince, the humanitarian.  I watched Van Jones break down while describing how Prince funded grassroots movements and disaster relief through his concerts.   That just goes to show that despite how famous he was, Prince was in large part unknown. With perpetual pressure to be what society expects us to be – prudent, straight, and predictable, Prince was eccentric, eclectic, and nonconforming.  More than anything, Prince was himself.  Thus, the biggest lesson to be learned from his existence is: do you.  And that right there is the key to EVERYTHING.

Weathering The Storm

DominoeYesterday evening, as I watched Hunter beam with excitement while racking up tickets at Chuck E. Cheese, I couldn’t help but to feel concern for the mental state of my pet, Dominoe.  The video game music and kid commotion weren’t loud enough to obscure the powerful thunder rattling the arcade’s windows around 8PM.  From having to repair my fence fiftyleven times, it was clear this was the type of weather capable of spooking Dominoe into charging through double sided cedar to escape the backyard.  I was in no mood to return to Home Depot yet again as a consequence of my dog’s seemingly irrational fear of storms. So once Hunter finally settled on a slinky for his hard earned tickets, it was out into the elements to try to ward off Dominoe’s inevitable El Chapo caper.

Luckily, I made it home before the worst of the flooding that sunk Northwest Harris County.  After whistling from my backdoor, I was relieved to see Dominoe, Paris, and Cud Kitty all emerge from the larger of the two dog houses in my yard.  I kissed all their noses and fetched a towel to dry them off.  As Paris and Cud Kitty plopped down on the living room floor, Dominoe continued to pace the house looking for a safe place to hide from Mother Nature’s threatening demeanor.  He finally settled right next to me on the couch and dropped his head in my lap.  At eighty pounds, Dominoe is well aware he is no longer a lap dog; however, he puppy eyed me into submission.  He then nudged my right arm with his snout to encourage me to comfort him.  I noticed he was trembling with anxiety.

Now, this is the very same dog who puts the fear of God into any living thing that unsuspectingly approaches my fence.  Yet, for the last ten years I’ve struggled to understand why Dominoe is so perplexingly frightened by something as common as thunder and lightening.  I felt his ancient ancestors would be ashamed to see how far their canine descendent had fallen from his natural place in the wild.  I’m guilty of pup shaming him: “C’mon Dominoe, you can’t be scared of the weather, you’re a dog!”

But last night, as I ran my fingernails through his coat, I played a game with myself – how would I view the universe from Dominoe’s perspective?  I’ve known Dominoe since he was in his mother, Cheecago’s, womb.  I authorized Cheecago’s life saving cesarian when Dominoe’s colossal head clogged up her birth canal.  When he finally opened his eyes after two weeks of suckling, I was the first human he saw.  If anyone was qualified to psychoanalyze Dominoe, it was me.  So I walked through his formative years in my mind to see if I could find a moment that could explain his wimpy storm behavior.

And then it finally dawned on me; there was a critical night back when Dominoe was a year old that I was absent.  My clothing line, dangerousNEGRO, was just getting off the ground, so my partners and I decided to rent a booth at the Indianapolis Black Expo.  At the time, I was dating a TSU girl with roots in Dayton, Ohio, just a ninety minute drive from Nap.  She mentioned her grandmother would love to have the dogs frolic in her backyard while I was in Indianapolis slangin’ t-shirts.  Seizing the convenience of free dog care, I dropped Cheecago and her puppy Dominoe off at Grandma Linda’s before heading to Indy (I had originally given Paris to one of my fraternity brothers in Chattanooga, so she was not present).

Sixteen hours later, I received a frantic call from Grandma Linda explaining that she had called the dogs to come inside after hearing thunder from an approaching storm. Dominoe answered her call, but surprisingly, Cheecago was nowhere to be found.  This was highly unusual because 1) Cheecago and Dominoe were practically inseparable, never going beyond eyesight of each other 2) Cheecago never showed interest in running away and 3) there were no visible holes in the chain linked fence from which Cheecago, a stubby, overweight, brindle pit could escape.  I hightailed it back to Ohio, and while en route, I received a call from the Trotwood Police Department.  Cheecago had been found… dead… two miles from Grandma Linda’s house. I showed up to the scene with my girlfriend’s father and Dominoe.  Cheecago lay on the sidewalk, mortally wounded. It was unclear how Cheecago had met her demise; her chest was blown open from what appeared to be a shotgun wound.  The police said there were no reports of a driver hitting her and there was no blood trail in the street to indicate that was the case.  I called my mom to break the news and she thought it would be best for Dominoe to see Cheecago one last time for closure.  (Yes, that may sound crazy to non dog owners, however, from previous experience we knew how difficult it was to have a dog grieve over a loved one that mysteriously never came home after “taking a ride to the vet”).  I let Dominoe out of the car to show him that his mother was deceased.  He wimpered and howled in despair… loudly.

Psychology Today recently published an article titled “Unconscious Memories Hide in the Brain But Can Be Retrieved.”  In the article, researchers revealed that “inadvertent or unexpected stimuli linked to the state-dependent memory can trigger acute flashbacks that are often the hallmark of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).” This is the case for people as well as animals.  Traumatic events create neurological pathways and synaptic bridges that affect the decision making of rats, humans, and everything in between.  So it is not far fetched to conclude that Dominoe associates thunder with the frightening moment that precipitated his mother’s death.  It was the worst night of his life.

Now consider your own traumatic memories. Whether you realize it or not, they play a role in your current decision making. Dominoe has a max IQ of 8; traumatic memories manifest in much more complex ways in humans. Take that into consideration before shaming yourself and others for actions that seem unreasonable.  Don’t be afraid to see a professional or encourage others to do so.  I tried it simply as a formality for a lawsuit I considered filing against HPD (they negligently fired a bullet into my kitchen eight years ago… trying to shoot a dog).  Surprisingly, I discovered more about myself than I ever would have imagined.  I came away from the experience feeling like I could conquer the world.  So, keep it real with yourself; mental health is as critical as physical health.  Please don’t be afraid to weather your storm.



Stop Blaming Hip Hop

As far back as I can remember, there has been a war on Hip Hop.  Vivid flashbacks of Reverend Calvin Butts crusading against “negative rap” from the seat of a steamroller come to mind.  Tupac’s disdain for C. Delores Tucker and her vocal criticism of Hip Hop’s violence and misogyny stand out.  Uncle Luke and 2 Live Crew fighting for their First Amendment right to be “As Nasty As They Wanna Be” at the Supreme Court is similarly memorable.  Fast forwarding to more recent times, Hip Hop continues to be demonized as “the Gospel of Self-Destruction.” Bill O’Reilly even goes as far as pinning the decline of American religious affiliation on rap music’s control over our nation’s youth. (Yes, really). Despite the last thirty years of Black leaders, preachers, politicians, and pundits hymning and hawing about Hip Hop’s chokehold on Black cultural expression, what has actually been accomplished besides youth resentment and elder alienation? I argue nothing at all.

Hip Hop is afflicted by Preacher’s Kid Syndrome. Since its inception it’s been asked to live beyond reproach; prior generations have pleaded with Hip Hop not to make a mockery of Black culture. “Fix your grammar… don’t talk like that… don’t dress like that… pull your damn pants up… you’re making us all look bad!” Yet people tend to forget that Hip Hop was born in a ghetto and continues to live in the ghetto.  Asking Hip Hop artists to focus solely on social uplift is as impractical as expecting the preacher’s kid not to wild out as soon as they leave home for college.  As the repressed preacher’s kid, Hip Hop is going to party hard, drink, do drugs, and be promiscuous.  To the top of its lungs, it’s going to shout the N-word and all the profanities it’s been told are unacceptable to mainstream society.  And when Daddy calls campus to demand that Hip Hop tone it down, it’s going to start ignoring those calls and turn up even more.  Hip Hop is that college roommate that goes to every party, takes every test high, inexplicably graduates magna cum laude, then gets tapped by Corporate America to generate record profits.  The preacher has to settle for a measly Mercedes while Hip Hop wakes up in a new Bugatti.

In response, Hip Hop is told that it’s selling out the Black race.  Its thuggery and highlighting of fiscal irresponsibility have been blamed for high incarceration rates, and subsequently the decimation of Black upward mobility.  Point blank, leaders tell us Hip Hop is holding the Black community back. Now… are there thugs making Hip Hop music and spreading delusions of grandeur? Yes, of course! Here are a few of my favorite:




Along with millions of listeners from all walks of life, I enjoy their music.  For Black youth, it’s the soundtrack to eudaemonia, the embodiment of the African American dream.  High school dropouts, undergrads, MBAs, and PhD scholars alike find motivation in the profanity ridden tales of ghetto greatness.  I know because they are my friends.  Hip Hop never prevented us from attaining success; it inspired us to work hard and invest in ourselves so we could one day live in mansions, bathing in jacuzzis full of Dom. As a person that grew up listening to the hardest of hard core Hip Hop, I was never motivated to commit felonies, disrespect women, or blow all my cash chasing unattainable fantasies.  The people I know who did all that stuff struggled with other household problems that would have manifested in trouble regardless of their choice of music.  Saying Hip Hop systemically programs Black youth for nihilism, prison, and economic catastrophe is an insult to our collective intelligence.

But this isn’t about feelings, it’s about reality.  The facts simply do not support the notion of Hip Hop being a cancer to the Black community.  Keith Humphreys of The Washington Post recently dropped an article titled “There’s Been a Big Decline in the Black Incarceration Rate, and Almost Nobody’s Paying Attention.” Considering how detrimental leaders, lawmakers, and the media believe Hip Hop to be as a contributor to Black criminality, how could this be true?  Let’s take a look at the numbers:

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Humphreys notes that “since 2000, the imprisonment rate among African-American women has dropped 47 percent, while the rate among white women has risen by 56 percent.”  In addition, “the rate of imprisonment among African-American men remains very high, but nonetheless it has tumbled 22 percent since 2000.” This all comes at a time when “Spotify has analyzed 20 billion tracks and has come to the conclusion that hip-hop is the most listened to genre in the world” (as reported by Angel Diaz for Complex July 14, 2015).  Could it be that public policy and NOT Hip Hop has had the greatest effect on whether or not Black youth end up in prison?  Certainly appears that way.

But what about money?  All that champagne popping, strip club raining, rim buying, fashion fanaticism, and jewelry dripping are what we’re told is keeping us from competing with other ethnic groups.  Yet, NYU Professor Patrick Sharkey studied “Neighborhoods and The Black-White Mobility Gap”prior to and after the advent of of Hip Hop.  The report concludes:

In the United States, living in a poor neighborhood often means living in an environment that is unhealthy and violent, and may offer relatively poor learning opportunities and economic opportunities. The troubling news from this report is
that inequality in our neighborhoods may be contributing to the persistence of racial differences in economic mobility. The hopeful news is that investments in neighborhoods that reduce the concentration of poverty could have powerful effects on the economic trajectories of children living within the most disadvantaged communities.

So is it Hip Hop holding us back or rather systemic wealth inequality? In the famous words of James Carville “it’s the economy stupid!” Take a look at this chart:


With Hip Hop not emerging until the mid 70s, the rate of Blacks living in high poverty neighborhoods is virtually identical when comparing pre versus post Hip Hop.  Subscribing to Hip Hop culture can’t be blamed for creating an environment of perpetual poverty in predominately Black neighborhoods. That’s because government sanctioned policies like redlining and Jim Crow show a direct impact. Blacks have historically and currently continue to be locked out of the wealth creation cycle home ownership provides. For instance, Emily Badger of The Washington Post reported in the past year “the Department of Housing and Urban Development settled with the largest bank headquartered in Wisconsin over claims that it discriminated from 2008-2010 against black and Hispanic borrowers in Wisconsin, Illinois and Minnesota.”  Certainly, racist policies like redlining create problems for Black communities Hip Hop can describe, but never spawn.

Furthermore, with education being a major key to upward mobility, it’s obvious what kind of long term impact Jim Crow has had on Black plight.  Deplorable education was the most severe consequence, as Black schools received significantly less funding and attention in comparison to White schools. [Cues Onyx] But, but wait it gets worse!  After Hip Hop swept America’s airwaves, the Prison Industrial Complex arose to punish and profit from the actions of the very same  youths it confined to ghettoes with crappy education. But it’s somehow Hip Hop’s fault for brainwashing kids into being criminals?  As mentioned previously, the Black incarceration rate is currently decreasing at the same time Hip Hop is being recognized as the world’s most popular music.  It’s evident Hip Hop has been unfairly targeted as the source of Black youth dysfunction; the true blame rests squarely on the shoulders of American public policy.  So why are we still being sold the lie that Black youth’s allegiance to Hip Hop is leading to the races’ demise?  [Cues Cam’ron] This ain’t math class but this s**t ain’t adding up!

Numbers don’t lie. To the best of its ability, Marketing Research Incorporated has tracked Hip Hop buying trends by race.  HipHopDX writer Omar Burgess reveals “if you put stock into the MRI data, you’re left juggling the fact that Hip Hop is by and large performed by black people selling product to an audience of mostly white people between the ages of 18 and 34.” Yet, White youth aren’t driven to destroy their communities by joining gangs and squandering their money. So why would Hip Hop lyrics have a disparate impact on Black American youth and not the youth of any other community worldwide?  Obviously our country’s policing of Hip Hop has produced the disparate impact, not the content.  Saying Black minds are somehow more impressionable than White, Asian, and other minds who opt in to Hip Hop culture is as absurd as it is offensive.

Knowing all of this, how dare anyone in America treat Hip Hop as a pariah. Hip Hop is the most uniquely American art form to ever emerge; it’s literally a reflection of hundreds of years of domestic policy. America has squeezed Black Americans into abject poverty, yet begs Black youth not to describe the conditions of their existence, nor glorify the mechanisms of their perceived escape? As fiercely as Americans cling to the Second Amendment, we must also support the First Amendment rights of Hip Hop artists.  No matter how much you hate the lyrics and/or appearance of Young Thug, Tyler The Creator, Nicki Minaj, or Future, they’re owed the right to vocally and visually do what they please.  Kanye West deserves the right to be as bat s**t crazy and vulgar as Ozzy Osbourne – censorship is an un-American quality.

Above and beyond everything else, Hip Hop, with all its perceived shortcomings, is fun; Black youth are owed the right to have fun.  Some guy in a suit or a robe is not allowed to dictate the parameters of Black fun. That’d be like me telling Country music artists to stop singing about revenge, or better yet, asking Heavy Metal artists to tone down the devil worshipping.  So, the next time somebody espouses some unquantifiable theory about Hip Hop degrading Black quality of life, cue Jay-Z and tell them “we don’t believe you, you need more people!”


Beyoncé’s Super Bowl Performance Was Dope… But


I loved Beyoncé’s Super Bowl 50 performance.  Never have I seen a house full of Black folks absolutely lose their minds in adulation of an icon.  While I kept my composure better than the Sisters who collectively lost their wigs when Queen Bey hit the stage, I couldn’t help but to shout “Beyoncé’s going in!” a few times… okay maybe like five times. Clad in Black Power gear, Beyoncé and her dancers made the greatest political statement in Super Bowl Halftime history.  At the end of the performance, everybody in the room high-fived each other.  Half the Sisters immediately made a beeline (no pun intended) for the exit; they came to see Beyoncé, not a bunch of oversized men fighting to kick an oblong shaped ball full of pigskin through a big H. prince-akeem The rest of us stayed, hoping to see Cam Newton dab in the end zone.  For Black America, Super Bowl 50 was more than just a game – it was a fight for our right to be Black, proud, and expressive. Thus, to say most of us were disappointed with the outcome is an understatement.  Nonetheless, we knew Cam would live to fight another day.

Though I sensed there’d be some backlash from the Fox News crowd over Beyoncé’s performance, and Cam walking out of his post game presser, never did I imagine the media circus that would follow.  Newton got skewered for being a sore loser, as if Peyton Manning and Tom Brady haven’t had similar eristic moments.  To top it off, there’s currently a #BoycottBeyonce coalition scheduled to descend on NFL headquarters in New York next week.

For three days I’ve been scratching my head trying to understand why these people are so mad.  The only conclusion I can come to is Black people are not supposed to show public emotion.  Aaron Rodgers’ championship belt celebration: awesome… Cam Newton dabbing: pure thuggery. Peyton Manning exiting the field without shaking his opponent’s hand after Super Bowl XLIV: meh… Cam Newton abruptly ending his post Super Bowl interview: deplorable.  Bono opening his jacket to reveal an American flag at Super Bowl XXXVI: patriotic…  Beyoncé throwing up a Black fist: anti-American.

It bothers me that America seems to prefer Black people in one of two flavors – docile or funny.  Consider this: young, Black males comprise 68.7% of the NFL, yet when is the last time we’ve had a Super Bowl performer that they actually listen to?  Sure, The Black Eyed Peas headlined Super Bowl XLV with their watered down brand of Hip-Pop, and Nelly got to flex his muscles a couple of times over a decade ago, but what about a headlining rap act today? I’m not trying to take anything away from Beyoncé because what she did was courageous and necessary, but why is it far fetched to conceive that her husband, or Kendrick Lamar, or J. Cole should get top billing at the Super Bowl?  Like Tom Petty, Bruno Mars, and Katy Perry, they are also multiplatinum artists who sell out stadiums WORLDWIDE.  Is the NFL afraid they won’t connect with their fanbase?  Are they worried a politically charged message or… or… a Black fist might slip out in front of millions of viewers?

It’s curious the NBA doesn’t share these fears.  Nas, Busta Rhymes, Ludacris, Chris Brown, Kanye West, Drake, and Outkast have all commanded the stage there.  I guess the NFL, its sponsors, and the major networks figure the world is cool with watching Black men annihilate each other on the field and that’s about it.  So kudos once again to Beyoncé for voicing the frustrations of Black America on the world’s largest stage; I only wish for Brothers to have the same opportunity moving forward.

.Com Unity

Snapchat-NeighborhoodFive years ago I accomplished one of my lifelong dreams of homeownership. Growing up I had only known what it was like to share walls with people.  Between living in a multi-family unit in Brooklyn, to the nation’s largest cooperative community in the Bronx (Co-op City), apartment living was a fact of life.  Dormitories were my home-away-from-home after leaving New York for boarding school, then college.   After graduating, I dwelled in a series of apartments in Nashville and Houston.  By my late twenties, I was completely over nosy, psychotic neighbors who watched my every move and complained about the faintest noise emanating from my stereo.  In a few instances, it was apparent my skin played a major factor in how I was treated by certain neighbors and leasing offices.  When I opted to avoid the unwarranted harassment that came with renting in predominately White neighborhoods, safety was a concern.  The final straw for me was narrowly escaping death in Southwest Houston, as HPD errantly fired a bullet through my door, past my ear, and into my freezer.

I went through the rigorous process of qualifying for an FHA loan. Months of overdraftless bank statements, stellar credit, and a liter of blood were all that was required. I finally closed on my home the last day of April 2011.  I’ll never forget the feelings of relief and accomplishment that flooded my brain the first night I laid in bed under my own roof, unattached to any nagging neighbor, safe from the threat of physical harm.  I was now the monarch of Meekville, and as such, I was determined to be left alone. I took pleasure in not having to ride an elevator with meddlesome residents or hear lead footed lummoxes trample on my ceiling.  My music would be played loud enough to reverberate through my entire abode without complaint.  All I had to do was pull into my garage and go about my life autonomously.

Of course I would wave from my car to acknowledge my neighbors’ presence, so as not to come across as a pompous prick. But realistically I couldn’t care less about whether we interacted at all.  I didn’t want to know where they worked, their religious and political affiliations, or the names of their children.  I just wanted them to wave back and get the heck out the way so I could get to work.

But, because the Great Architect is obviously a comedian, I found myself in need of a neighbor’s assistance less than thirty days after moving in.  My new landscapers managed to clip my water line causing a geyser to sprout outside the wall of my garage.  Directly across the street was oil & gas pipe fitter and neighborhood handyman, David Reynolds. Add a few pounds, a beard, and a West Texas accent to Tim The Toolman Taylor and you have Mr. Reynolds. Seeing an opportunity to help in distress, Reynolds rushed over and showed me how to shut off the water to my home.  Apartment living hadn’t prepared me for this, but Mr. Reynolds was well versed in anything involving home improvement.  Once we shut the water off, he went back to his garage/after work machine shop and picked up a few useful tools.  He cut a hole into the wall of my garage, fitted a piece of PVC over the severed pipe, and saved me hundreds on emergency plumbing.  I was extremely grateful.

Afterwards I made sure not to just wave from the car, but roll down the window to have a conversation with the Reynolds whenever I passed.  And the conversations are rarely short; Mr. & Mrs. Reynolds love to express their conservative opinions in elaborate detail.  I resolved to make them the only neighbors to whom I would devote more energy than a car wave.  Certainly, I did not have the bandwidth to interact with my other neighbors.  For the greater part of five years this has been the case.

That all changed on Saturday.  The weather was gorgeous enough for my son to enjoy a late January bike ride, so I took him outside to flourish in the warm sun and hopefully run his battery down enough to get some writing done on my book.  As Hunter peddled feverishly up, down, and around Otter Trail’s cul-de-sac, I internalized a super villain smile – the plan was working, muhahaha!  But, while Hunter was enjoying his time outside, he started to get bored on his own.  He wanted another kid to race against.  “Can you call Karys Daddy?” I thought “someone else to wear him out?”  Sounded like an even better idea… Sure!

All of a sudden I heard Mr. Reynolds call me from across the street.  I braced for lengthy conversation.  He pointed out the hole that still remained in my wall from the emergency pipe work he helped me with right after I first moved in.  “Bout time we patched that up, don’t you think?” I nodded my head in agreement.   While he went back to his garage to grab patchwork supplies, my next door neighbor, Mrs. Climaco, a Filipino nurse, came outside with her two boys.  Previously I exchanged numbers with her husband Allan, who would call me any time my dogs Houdinied their way out of my backyard.  Beyond a couple of texts and a few panicked phone calls, I had interacted minimally with the Climacos over the past half decade.  Apparently their boys Mikee (7) and Aiden (6) had nagged the Mrs. all morning for a park visit on Saturday.  However, seeing Hunter burn rubber on his training wheels inspired them to go back inside and grab their bikes.  “Do you mind if they play with Hunter?” Mrs. Climaco asked.  I responded “of course not, let them wear themselves out!”

While Mrs. Climaco tended to the boys, I went back into my garage to receive a do-it-yourself tutorial from Mr. Reynolds on repairing sheetrock with vinyl spackling. Fifteen minutes later, my sister showed up with my niece Karys and the lawn chairs she typically uses for her spring soccer games.  Mrs. Climaco took a seat with us in my driveway and we talked while the kids played.  I must admit, I was a little nervous she would ask if the Eddie Bauer car seat in my garage was the very same car seat I had scavenged from her curb before trash pickup a few years prior, but she didn’t bring it up. Whew… that would have been aaaawwwkward LOL!  Anyway, as we talked, another neighbor, Mike, who lives a couple doors down on the cusp of the cul-de-sac, decided to bring his three daughters outside.  His eldest is only 10 but handles an ATV like a pro.  The middle child prefers her electric Frozen kidmobile, while the youngest loves her Elsa bike on training wheels. In little to no time this was the scene in front of my house:

Keep in mind this is the most I had interacted with my neighbors in… well… ever.  Watching the kids play so gleefully made me miss the excitement of going outside during my childhood. I even got a chance to show off my long forgotten lacrosse skills:

Sorry Aiden!  LOL.  He was ok by the way.  He picked up on lacrosse rather quickly after that.  A few more kids ended up joining in on the fun as the afternoon progressed.  Black kids, White kids, Asian kids, and Hispanic kids all laughing and smiling without a care in the world.  Soon I was giving baseball lessons:

Yes, that’s my son Hunter dancing in his Power Ranger costume while my niece Karys runs the bases. I’ve never been more proud.

As the sun started making its way closer to the horizon, the kids insisted on keeping the party going – at my place.  Mrs. Climaco and her boys entered my house for the first time ever. While I felt happy to have finally broken the ice and shared my home, I was ashamed that it took five years for me to even consider sharing my personal space with the people physically closest to me.

What I realized as I got to know my neighbors, and the kids got to know each other, is that nothing is more important than being engaged in your community.  What are my neighbors to think of Black men when the Black man right next door doesn’t care to open up to them?  How can they be informed about what goes on in the mind of a Black man or a Black child, or what goes on in a Black person’s household?  Should I be surprised when they are unable to humanize Black people, considering they have very few intimate experiences from which to draw conclusions?  If I don’t allow my neighbors to get to know me and my son, can I be mad when their opinions about Black lives are formed through mainstream media?  Would George Zimmerman have pursued Trayvon Martin if he had previously watched the game in Tracy Martin’s home? These questions tormented me through the weekend.

Even in predominately Black communities, consider how much more it makes sense for neighbors to be acquainted.  Would we have as much Black on Black crime if parents of young Black children frequently spent time conversing in the homes of other neighborhood parents?  Would kids act up as much, knowing the eyes and judgments of their entire community are upon them?  Isn’t it safer for me to know the predilections and predispositions of my son’s peers through close observation?  Wouldn’t it be easier to identify and and stem disruptive elements alien to the community’s ethos?

In this dot com era, people are more likely to engage with associates through social media than any other avenue.  People can choose to ignore conflicting viewpoints in favor of tribalistic ideas and value systems.  After all, Black Twitter is rarely a blip on the radar of the platform’s conventional users.  Digital walls create segregated bubbles of thought and conscience, making community interaction more vital than ever in 2016.  For the safety, livelihood, and happiness of our children it is imperative that we get to know our neighbors.

So, to all my neighbors reading this that I have yet to meet, I’d like to say “Hi, I’m Demetrius, the Black guy next door!”

P.S. – Yesterday the Climacos invited me, my son, and my niece into their home.  Hunter and Karys had a blast playing with Aiden and Mikee in their game room.   I sat on the couch talking with Allan, his mother, and his in-laws about how much we don’t miss Northeast snow.